I’m guilty of saying things to my husband Drew after a hard day like, “well you’re lucky you get to swan off to work”, anyone else?
then he asks me, intrigued, what SWANNING off to work would look like, then I laugh.
It’s hard to sometimes not feel resentful that he gets to switch off from the craziness round here and pursue his career, or that he can eat his lunch in peace without being watched, whinged at, grabbed at or having to share it (if I eat at all). That his coffees are still warm on the last sip and that he has proper conversations and keeps his mind sharp.
That green grass right?!
I send him photos like this one most days and usually get the response, “wish I was there”, and it occurred to me that if I was in his shoes, I would too.
It’s so easy to ruminate on what you’re missing out on and forget that by having that you may end up missing out on so much more, or just simply, missing.
He did once admit to me that after looking after the kids by himself a few hours he was more physically and mentally exhausted than a days work.
I don’t know why but this made me feel really good😂
There will come a time soon when I’m back at work and instead my mind will be with them and I’ll know what he feels like.. And now I can’t stop picturing my husband moving gracefully out the door like a swan on his way to work.

By our beautiful contributing writer Jess Urlichs.
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